Do I REALLY Need To Forgive?

Emotional health depends on strengthening the mind.
Strengthening the mind occurs as we forgive others.
How do I know?  Because my own journey through life has given me opportunities to either forgive someone who has wronged me–especially unjustly–or to hold a grudge.  I have seen firsthand what holding grudges does.  It creates bitter, resentful, hateful people who have no problem firing missals at the very people they should love and honor.  It turns these people into haters of light.
Who do you need to forgive?  Take a first step.  Write a letter to them and pretend they are at their very best.  Keep the letter and read it often.  Allow this one act to help you begin the journey to having your heart turn.  Forgiveness does not mean accepting what they did or accepting them into your life.  Forgiveness means peace and a fortified mind for you.
I know because it happened to me this past week.
Forgiveness matters.  You matter.

(Now 4 years later as I reflect on this experience forgiving a sibling, I recognize the power in my life when I think about them. They have not changed their behavior towards me; they have not sought forgiveness. But I am different. I don’t get anxious when I think about them. My heart doesn’t pound and I don’t wonder what I will say if I see this person. Instead, the boundary I set to not spend much, if any, time around this person creates safety. I am able to genuinely ask, “What is there to understand about this person’s wound?” and it frees me to be me and move forward in my life with peace.)

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