Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to leave something unresolved?
Maybe you keep offering advice to someone you love, replaying a conversation, or finding one more thing to do.
You know you can’t control the outcome, but something inside you keeps urging you to act.
I’ve recently recognized a pattern I’ve carried for years.
When uncertainty shows up, I create more things to do.
This past month, uncertainty in my coaching business had me developing another slide deck, another class, another project.
All good things! But I began to recognize something underneath.
I wasn’t necessarily responding to what needed to be done. I was responding to the discomfort of uncertainty.
Sometimes our need for control doesn’t look like control. It looks like productivity, preparation, or trying harder.
Our brain and nervous system can learn to associate certain behaviors with feeling safer. For me, staying busy had become a familiar response to uncertainty.
But recognizing that pattern gave me an opportunity to choose differently.
Here’s a question worth considering:
Am I doing this because it’s genuinely needed, or because uncertainty feels uncomfortable?
You don’t have to immediately change anything. Begin by noticing what’s happening inside you.
Perhaps you’ll discover that you can care deeply without managing every outcome.
You can trust yourself to navigate what comes next, even without all the answers.
And you can trust that God is present in the uncertainty, too.
Sometimes the next step isn’t doing more. It’s learning to stay steady when you don’t know what’s next.
