A Rift In Marriage And Choice

A few days before Thanksgiving my husband and I had a rift between us.  We were having a conversation and I got upset because of something he said that I knew was true–but it would mean that I would need to work some more on getting rid of a trigger point in our relationship.

My general mode in handling such conflict is to stonewall–go quiet and hold in my frustration or resentment or anger.  But this time I knew I could choose something different.  The challenge was wanting to!

I knew that the feelings I was having were hurting me and hurting my marriage.  I knew that I didn’t want these feelings.  And so I plowed through the embarrassment and stubbornness and took a walk into the hills.

I have a place I like to go when I’m feeling down and out.  There is a little stream there.  I sat down and started to talk.   Usually I write out what I am feeling but that day it seemed better to talk it out.  As I was expressing myself, I glanced down into the stream (which didn’t have much water in it!) and saw the following sign:

God has a sense of humor!
It was just enough to almost make me chuckle:)…and then I watched myself not allow this possible setback with my husband to be a setback.  Instead, it became a way to RISE.  It has caused me to ponder on one of my beliefs–on one of my ways of being with my husband.  The pondering has led to working on eradicating it, using the write, burn, and learn tool.
What will you do TODAY to RISE?
It matters!

 

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