A few days before Thanksgiving my husband and I had a rift between us.  We were having a conversation and I got upset because of something he said that I knew was true–but it would mean that I would need to work some more on getting rid of a trigger point in our relationship.

My general mode in handling such conflict is to stonewall–go quiet and hold in my frustration or resentment or anger.  But this time I knew I could choose something different.  The challenge was wanting to!

I knew that the feelings I was having were hurting me and hurting my marriage.  I knew that I didn’t want these feelings.  And so I plowed through the embarrassment and stubbornness and took a walk into the hills.

I have a place I like to go when I’m feeling down and out.  There is a little stream there.  I sat down and started to talk.   Usually I write out what I am feeling but that day it seemed better to talk it out.  As I was expressing myself, I glanced down into the stream (which didn’t have much water in it!) and saw the following sign.